It seems that they agreed to have sex everyday, no matter what. Interesting. That's pretty much the way things are at my house, but I never thought to write a book about it...
At the bottom of the article, I noted a reference to another article about a woman who gave her husband an entire year of sex for his fortieth birthday. Hmmmm. Cheap gift. Wonder if the house hunk would go for it? To see how it came out-- today.msnbc.msn.com/id/25097086/
Some of the statistics they were bandying about in the articles seemed a little...sad. So I went in search of the real lowdown on what's happening in the bedroom. Not much, it seems. According to Kinsey research,
The item I found interesting was the finding that 19% of women think about sex everyday or several times a day, 67% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 14% less than once a month. Clearly us romance writers must be in that 19% or we would never get any writing done at all!
But wait! There's more! According to the Durex Survey "People around the world would rather go out with their friends than have sex. More than a fifth (22%) choose their peers rather than having sex with a partner (19%), while a further 10% prefer to either play sport or go shopping." marriage.about.com/cs/sexualstatistics/a/sexstatistics.htm
The Aussies have their own surveys going.
More than 19,000 Aussies aged 16 to 59 years were questioned over the telephone about their sexual experiences, relationships, use of condoms and contraception, sexual satisfaction and difficulties and sexual attitudes and knowledge of sexual transmitted infections.
Researchers from La Trobe University, The University of Sydney and the University of New South Wales reported that more than three quarters of those surveyed believed that sex before marriage was acceptable.
Heterosexual couples who had been together for at least a year reported they had sex on average 1.84 times a week - but most wanted more. (Interestingly, while 85% of respondents said they would like sex at least twice a week, only 27% actually had sex this often).
For more info check www.abc.net.au/science/features/sexstatistics/
So what does it all mean? I think it means that we as erotic romance writers really, truly deal in fantasy. Not the way things are for the vast majority of the population, but the way a lot of women in particular would like things to be in their fantasies. Maybe even what they long for in reality. I don't know. Like the old saying goes, one woman's meat is another's poison.
Personally, it's that sex once a week that I'm having trouble with. Once a week? Oh, heck no. Not even in the worst part of our marriage did we ever sink to once a week. Hmmm. I wonder if I could convince the house hunk that that was normal...?