Monday, December 28, 2009

Expressions of Romance

Over the years I must have read thousands of books and watched thousands of movies with romantic elements in them--note that I say romantic elements. In more recent times, many movie makers and authors have substituted sex for romance.

I've struggled with the problem of demonstrating the difference, especially as my older granddaughter has reached the stage where boys are interesting. Unfortunately, even much of what passes for romance on television is both too mature for her understanding and quite frankly skips over the best of romance.

Yep, I believe that sex can be romantic...up to a certain point. But romance, the elements of falling in love rather than lust, is a rare thing now days, especially in a G rated version. Then last night the girls and I sat down to watch Sound of Music.

I confess that I haven't watched it in many years, mostly because I find the commercial breaks so freaking annoying! However, the girls and I persevered. They were so drawn into the story that they made sure they were back from their commercial "errands" (bathroom, drink, snack) in time to catch the next sliver of the movie.

Both girls commented on the fact that there wasn't much kissing. And the older one pointed out something I thought was very interesting. She said we didn't need more kissing because the expressions on their face showed they loved each other. As I watched, I realized she was absolutely correct.

Love lived there.

It occurs to me that we writers too often skip over the expressions of romance. We cheat our readers and ourselves with our rush for physical fulfillment when we gloss over those expressions of love.

I have spent much time in reflection lately wondering what was missing in my stories. I think this might be it. Somewhere along the line I've failed to demonstrate the very important expression--facial, physical, emotional--expression of romantic love.

Perhaps, just perhaps, this was the best three hours I've spent in a long time.



  1. Oh hell Anny...I do not believe that of your writing. Do not let dipsticks get to you

  2. Its a wonderful movie. And I love that your granddaughters picked up on the expressions of emotions.
    But as far as your writing, you're very good, Anny. If sales or lack there of are the only reflection of talent there's a lot of us in trouble:)

  3. 'You are sixteen going on seventeen...'

    For years I thought that movie ended with the wedding. And then I was allowed to stay up later:)

    It's always good to know some classics will always be enjoyed! And you show a wonderful romantic connection between your characters long before they are burning up the sheets or causing mating storms in Mystic Valley. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

  4. Excellent blog. I do think you're right in general about many who present us with "romance". But not about yourself. Your Mystic Valley stories may have a great deal of "burning up the sheets" as Molly put it, but they are also filled with those little things that people do each day to show they love one another.